Passing Judgment: Praise and Blame in Everyday Life

Our obsession with praise and blame begins at birth and is permeated by interactions between parents, children, couples, and friends and colleagues. Terri Apter's research provides tools to learn about personal needs, goals, and values, manage biases, tolerate others' views, and make sense of our responses to ourselves and others.

\n Format: Hardback
\n Length: 320 pages
\n Publication date: 09 February 2018
\n Publisher: WW Norton & Co
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Our fascination with praise and criticism starts early in life, as we become entirely reliant on others. We quickly grasp the importance of praise and the fear that comes with criticism. Even as we outgrow our infancy, we remain vigilant in monitoring the judgments of others, creating what relational psychologist Terri Apter refers to as a "judgment meter." This meter continuously scans people and our interactions with them, registering either a positive or negative opinion.

Apter delves into the intricate dynamics of interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues, revealing a pervasive culture of praise and blame that extends far beyond mere compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of extensive research, Apter provides valuable tools for individuals to gain insights into their personal needs, goals, and values. She also empowers us to manage our biases, cultivate tolerance for different perspectives, and make sense of our complex and often bewildering responses to ourselves and others.

Through her insightful analysis, Apter sheds light on the profound impact of praise and criticism on our relationships and personal growth. She challenges us to examine our motivations and intentions behind our words and actions, promoting a more compassionate and understanding approach to communication and interaction. By embracing the lessons learned from her research, we can cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness, improve our relationships, and navigate the complexities of human interactions with greater ease and clarity.

\n Weight: 432g\n
Dimension: 149 x 216 x 33 (mm)\n
ISBN-13: 9780393247855\n \n