The Mating Trade

People use shadkhans, go-betweens, computer or video-dating agencies, marriage bureaux, Asian arranged marriages, gay dating agencies, or personal ads to help them find marriage. Dr. Mullan's book looks at the mating trade historically and cross-culturally, making it clear that there is nothing necessarily odd or deviant about it. It is a business like any other, and as long as people continue to want 'perfect partners, marriage, permanent relationships, dates, and sex, the business will thrive.

Format: Hardback
Length: 322 pages
Publication date: 24 February 2022
Publisher: Taylor & Francis Ltd

Marriages, it seems, are not solely orchestrated by celestial forces, as some may suggest. In the real world, many individuals require assistance in navigating the intricate process of finding a suitable partner. This assistance can come in various forms, such as the guidance of Jewish shadkhans (matchmakers), intermediaries, computer or video-dating agencies, marriage bureaux, Asian arranged marriages, gay dating agencies, or personal ads.

Originally published in 1984, this insightful work by the authors sheds light on the mating trade, dispelling some of its mystique and offering a comprehensive and detailed account of the role of "third parties" in marriage. Dr. Mullan delves into the history and cross-cultural perspectives of singles scenes and arranged marriages, making a compelling case that there is nothing inherently odd or deviant about this practice. Instead, he views it as a business, similar to any other, driven by the human desire for perfect partners, permanent relationships, dates, and sex.

However, the author acknowledges that meeting these demands in the evolving social structures of our time can be challenging. As long as people continue to seek these opportunities, the marriage business will likely thrive. It may even expand and grow, but the author believes that it first needs to address certain issues and clean up its act.

In conclusion, while marriages may not be entirely predetermined by heaven, they are undoubtedly influenced by a wide range of human factors and societal dynamics. The role of "third parties" in marriage, such as matchmakers, intermediaries, and dating agencies, has played a significant part in shaping the relationships that people form. As long as there is a demand for love and companionship, these businesses will continue to exist and evolve to meet the changing needs of individuals seeking meaningful connections.

Dimension: 216 x 138 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9781032230771