You Gotta Be You: How to Embrace This Messy Life and Step Into Who You Really Are

Brandon Kyle Goodman's book "You Gotta Be You" challenges societal expectations and encourages readers to embrace their true selves, overcoming rejection and finding self-love.

Format: Hardback
Length: 224 pages
Publication date: 20 October 2022
Publisher: Hachette Books

From the moment we are born, a litany of dos and don'ts are placed upon us by our families, our communities, and society. We are required to fit into boxes based on our race, gender, sexuality, and other aspects of our identities, being told by others how we should behave, who we should date, or what we should be interested in. For so many of us, those boxes begin to feel like shackles when we realize they don't fit our unique shape, yet we keep trying because we crave acceptance and validation. But is fitting in worth the time, energy, and suffering? Actor, writer, and activist Brandon Kyle Goodman says, "Hell no, it ain't!"

As a Black nonbinary, queer person in a dark-skinned 6-foot-1, 180-pound male body born into a religious immigrant household, Brandon knows the pain of having to hide one's true self, the work of learning to love that true self, and the freedom of finally being your true self. In You Gotta Be You, Brandon affectionately challenges you to consider, "Who would I be if society never got its hands on me?" This question set Brandon on a mission to dropkick societal shackles by unlearning all the things he was told he should be in order to step into who he really is. It required him to reexamine messy but ultimately defining moments in his life, such as his first time being followed in a store, navigating his mother's born-again Christianity, and regretfully using soap as lube (yes, you read that right!). To find the lessons that would guide him to his most authentic self.

Compassionate and soulful, funny and revealing, You Gotta Be You is an unapologetic call to self-freedom. It's about turning rejection (from others and yourself) into a roadmap to self-love. It's a guide to setting boundaries and fostering self-growth. And most importantly, it's an affirmation that we are enough as we are.

Weight: 404g
Dimension: 232 x 160 x 22 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9780306826191