On Getting Better

Adam Phillips explores how we can talk differently about how we might want to change, knowing that all change precipitates us into an uncertain future in this companion book to On Wanting to Change.

Format: Paperback / softback
Length: 176 pages
Publication date: 11 November 2021
Publisher: Penguin Books Ltd

We can talk about getting better - about wanting to change in ways that we might choose and prefer - is to talk about pursuing the life we want; in the full knowledge that our pictures of the life we want, of our version of a good life, come from or come out of what we have already experienced. (We write the sentences we write because of the sentences we have read.)

How can we talk differently about how we might want to change, knowing that all change precipitates us into an uncertain future?

In this companion book to On Wanting to Change, Adam Phillips explores how we might get better at talking about what it is to get better.

Phillips suggests that we can start by recognizing that our pictures of the life we want are often shaped by the experiences we have already had. We write the sentences we write because of the sentences we have read, and our thoughts and beliefs are influenced by the people and events that have shaped us.

This means that our ideas about what a good life looks like may be limited by our past experiences. For example, if we grew up in a family that valued wealth and material possessions, we may have a strong desire for these things ourselves. However, if we have had negative experiences with money or materialism, we may also develop negative beliefs about these things.

To overcome these limitations, Phillips suggests that we can seek out new experiences and perspectives. We can read books, travel, and engage with people from different backgrounds and cultures to broaden our understanding of what it means to live a good life. We can also practice mindfulness and self-reflection to become more aware of our thoughts and beliefs and how they are shaping our experiences.

Another important aspect of getting better at talking about how we might want to change is recognizing that change is a process that takes time and effort. Phillips suggests that we can start by setting small goals and working towards them gradually. We can also seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional to help us navigate the challenges of change.

In conclusion, getting better at talking about how we might want to change is an important step towards pursuing the life we want. By recognizing the limitations of our past experiences and seeking out new experiences and perspectives, we can broaden our understanding of what it means to live a good life. We can also practice mindfulness and self-reflection to become more aware of our thoughts and beliefs and how they are shaping our experiences. Finally, we can recognize that change is a process that takes time and effort and seek out support from others to help us navigate the challenges of change.

Weight: 100g
Dimension: 181 x 111 x 11 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9780241541883