Please Scream Quietly: A Story of Kink

Please Scream Quietly is a collective autobiography that explores the BDSM subculture, arguing that most people are a little kinky and that the subculture teaches its members to emphasize and cherish their kinky differences. It discusses BDSM identities, experiences, relationships, community-level experiences, and social status, and reflects on how the subcultures world of BDSM might be different from BDSM outside of it.

Format: Paperback / softback
Length: 296 pages
Publication date: 05 July 2022
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Please Scream Quietly is a captivating collective autobiography that delves into the vibrant world of the BDSM subculture. It makes a compelling argument that most individuals possess a subtle kinkiness within them, yet the BDSM community empowers its members to embrace and celebrate their unique kinky differences. Drawing from extensive interviews, survey data, and years of insightful observations conducted by a self-identified kinkster and professional sociologist, the book weaves a captivating narrative that sheds light on the lives and loves of those who inhabit this often misunderstood realm.

The journey begins with an exploration of BDSM identities, delving into the process by which kinksters come to define kink/BDSM and construct meaningful social identities for themselves as kinksters. It then delves into the motivations behind BDSM practices, with a particular focus on how individuals experience BDSM as either sexual or non-sexual. The narrative then shifts to examine the dynamics of relationships within the subculture, exploring BDSM relationships and consensual non-monogamy/polyamory. This section provides valuable insights into the complexities and intricacies of these relationships, highlighting the importance of communication, trust, and respect.

Moving beyond individual experiences, the book delves into the community-level experiences of group norms and rules. It analyzes subcultural demographics, as well as behavioral and attitudinal norms both within and outside public BDSM dungeons. This section offers a deep understanding of the social dynamics at play within the BDSM community, shedding light on the values, beliefs, and practices that shape its members' lives.

The book concludes with an insightful analysis of how the subculture constructs positive and negative social status for its members. It reflects on the unique challenges and opportunities that arise within this subculture, as well as the potential differences between BDSM within and outside of it. Overall, Please Scream Quietly is a must-read for anyone interested in exploring the diverse and fascinating world of BDSM. It provides a comprehensive and nuanced perspective on this subculture, offering valuable insights into the lives, loves, and experiences of its members.

Weight: 440g
Dimension: 257 x 229 x 20 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9781538168769