Jerold J Kreisman,Randi Kreger

Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder

Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder

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This book provides a compassionate guide to help individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) communicate effectively and establish healthy boundaries. The author, a psychiatrist with extensive experience in treating BPD, offers the SET (support, empathy, truth) method as a powerful tool for addressing the demands, assertions, and feelings of loved ones while maintaining appropriate boundaries.

Format: Paperback / softback
Length: 176 pages
Publication date: 27 December 2018
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications


If you have a loved one with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotions and conflict that can arise in daily interactions and conversations. People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of lashing out that can confuse and upset those around them.

Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience in treating BPD, "I Hate You, Tell Me You Love Me" offers a breakthrough, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one who has BPD. The SET (support, empathy, truth) method outlined in this book is a powerful and simple tool that will allow you to honestly address your loved one's demands, assertions, and feelings while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the last, helping you build up a consistent and reliable communication process.

In this book, you'll find a review of BPD and the common communication problems inherent in the disorder. You'll learn how SET can address these issues. And finally, you'll find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when talking to a loved one with BPD.

Remember-validation isn't the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.

Weight: 278g
Dimension: 153 x 228 x 12 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9781684030460

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