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When You Lose It: Two voices. One true story. A mother and daughter on the edge. 'A very important subject' - ITV's This Morning

When You Lose It: Two voices. One true story. A mother and daughter on the edge. 'A very important subject' - ITV's This Morning

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This book explores the complex mother-daughter relationship when a teenager is coerced into sending explicit photos, leading to self-loathing, a psychotic breakdown, and hearing voices. It is a brutally honest true story of consent, coercion, and shattering consequences.

Format: Paperback / softback
Length: 352 pages
Publication date: 28 September 2023
Publisher: Welbeck Publishing Group



Claudia Winkleman, Gloria Hunniford, Jamie Theakston, and Roxy have all praised this book as an extraordinary and important read. Claudia Winkleman describes it as superbly written, highlighting how precious mother-daughter relationships are, especially during the teenage years. Gloria Hunniford encourages everyone to read it and then have meaningful conversations with their sons, emphasizing its essential nature. Jamie Theakston describes it as a gripping memoir that explores two battling narratives and the strained mother-daughter relationship that reaches its absolute limits.

Roxy was just 13 years old when she was coerced and blackmailed into sending explicit photos, which quickly spread throughout her school. The immense shame and self-loathing that followed led to a psychotic breakdown. Roxy started hearing voices and seeing things that weren t there, further deepening her mental distress. Her family was caught in a whirlwind of confusion and desperation, unable to understand what was happening and how to help her.

This book delves into the complex dynamics of consent, coercion, and the devastating consequences that can arise when these issues are not addressed properly. It sheds light on the struggles of young people, their families, and the mental health system in dealing with such complex and sensitive situations. Through the alternating perspectives of Roxy and her mother, the book provides a raw and emotional account of their journey through the darkness.

What happens when a teenager loses control, and their mother loses them? What happens when you can t confide in your mother about your desperate need for help? And how can a family recover from a devastating mental health crisis? These are the questions at the heart of When You Lose It, a brutally honest and deeply moving true story told from two perspectives.

Claudia Winkleman praises the book as superbly written, highlighting how precious mother-daughter relationships are, especially during the teenage years. Gloria Hunniford encourages everyone to read it and then have meaningful conversations with their sons, emphasizing its essential nature. Jamie Theakston describes it as a gripping memoir that explores two battling narratives and the strained mother-daughter relationship that reaches its absolute limits.

Roxy was just 13 years old when she was coerced and blackmailed into sending explicit photos, which quickly spread throughout her school. The immense shame and self-loathing that followed led to a psychotic breakdown. Roxy started hearing voices and seeing things that weren t there, further deepening her mental distress. Her family was caught in a whirlwind of confusion and desperation, unable to understand what was happening and how to help her.

This book delves into the complex dynamics of consent, coercion, and the devastating consequences that can arise when these issues are not addressed properly. It sheds light on the struggles of young people, their families, and the mental health system in dealing with such complex and sensitive situations. Through the alternating perspectives of Roxy and her mother, the book provides a raw and emotional account of their journey through the darkness.

In conclusion, When You Lose It is an extraordinary and important book that deserves to be read by everyone. It provides a powerful insight into the complexities of consent, coercion, and mental health, and sheds light on the struggles of young people, their families, and the mental health system. Claudia Winkleman, Gloria Hunniford, Jamie Theakston, and Roxy have all praised it as a must-read, and it is essential reading for anyone who wants to understand the importance of healthy relationships and the impact of mental health crises on families.

Weight: 314g
Dimension: 129 x 198 x 29 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9781802792195

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