Why Can't I Fix It?: The Questions We Ask When We Love Someone with Addiction

Rev. Nathan Detering conducted interviews to identify and address the common questions that haunt us when we love someone with addiction, such as why is this happening, what can you do, and what cant you do. He encourages those struggling with a loved ones addictions to practice self-care and self-compassion, understand the cultural context for emotional responses and expectations, and reach out for support.

Format: Paperback / softback
Length: 120 pages
Publication date: 20 July 2023
Publisher: Skinner House Books

When Rev. Nathan Detering shared the story of his brother's death from a drug overdose with the members of his congregation, many of them shared their own addiction stories with him. Realizing the healing power of sharing stories and questions in community, Rev. Detering conducted interviews to identify and address the common questions that haunt us when we love someone with addiction. In conversations both within and outside his community, he heard the palpable need for those struggling with a loved one's addictions to know they are not alone.

Weaving together his own and others' deeply felt experiences of addiction, Why Can't I Fix It? responds to sometimes desperate questions such as: Why is this happening? What can you do? What can't you do? How do you care for yourself and the rest of your family? Can you trust your community to support you and your family? While the answers to these questions are not easily found, Why Can't I Fix It? encourages those of us who are struggling with a loved one's addictions to practice self-care and self-compassion, understand the cultural context for emotional responses and expectations of ourselves and others, and reach out for support.

Rev. Detering's interviews revealed that addiction is not just a personal problem, but a societal one. He noted that the stigma surrounding addiction often prevents people from seeking help and support. To address this, he encouraged his congregation to be more compassionate and understanding towards those struggling with addiction. He also emphasized the importance of education and awareness about addiction, so that people can recognize the signs and symptoms and seek help before it's too late.

Rev. Detering's book also provides practical advice for those who are struggling with a loved one's addiction. He offers strategies for managing stress and anxiety, setting boundaries, and communicating effectively with loved ones. He also provides resources for finding support and treatment, including support groups, counseling, and medication-assisted treatment.

In conclusion, Why Can't I Fix It? is a powerful and compassionate resource for anyone struggling with a loved one's addiction. Rev. Nathan Detering's story and interviews provide a deep understanding of the challenges and struggles of addiction, and his practical advice and resources offer hope and support for those who are facing this difficult situation. Whether you are a loved one of someone with addiction or are struggling with your own addiction, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to better understand and navigate the complex world of addiction.

Weight: 126g
Dimension: 127 x 178 x 10 (mm)
ISBN-13: 9781558968981